#5- Women, you matter!

I came across these words of advice on a Facebook group (not sure of the original source), and these are things that I always tell my girl friends when I see they have trouble with men and dating. Women, don't let yourselves be treated like second class citizens. Many girls just settle being treated a certain way, but that needs to change, because you matter! Here are a few words of wisdom that you should carry with you throughout your life:

-If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
-If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
-Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition to save you from heartache.
-Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
-If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you correctly, don't jump into being "friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. And by seeing him more you might only be more tempted to get back into that flawed relationship.
-Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
-Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
-The only person you can control in the relationship is you.
-Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
-Maintain boundaries in how a man treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
-Be proud of your own accomplishments and take pride in all that you do.
-You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
-Don't ever make him feel like he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him a quasi-God. You both value the same!
-Never let a man define who you are.
-A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
-All men are NOT dogs.
-You should not be the one doing all of the bending.... compromise is a two way street.
-You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
-You should never look for someone to complete you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary. Remember that you are each whole people, with your own dreams and goals, you are not half a person!
-Dating is fun.... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. And that's how you become more experienced on what type of guy you do like and what you don't. You see what's out there.
-Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always knows where you are, sees you every second of every day, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
-Never co-sign for a man.
-Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.


Share this with other ladies... you'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.
When you eliminate all the bad, the hurtful, and the disrespectful men out of your life, you allow room for a good and decent man to come in.


*Note to men: I am in no way trying to put down your gender. I have met many amazing men and know that there are lots of them out there. (These words of advice could easily be portrayed the other way around!) This is just to help girls, especially those that may settle easily, to be better prepared and to give themselves more value. Thanks for understanding :) I'll take care of you guys next :)


With all my love,
Hennely